Tuesday, February 22, 2005

Men - - To be Fair

Alright, I know this has been a long time in coming, but it's not because I'm a man and ashamed of the gender. We definitely have our problems and one specifically needs to be called out. Men perceive women to be unintelligent and wanting. What the hell is that about?

A few years back I was employed as a common, hard working construction underling. On a daily basis I found myself ashamed to be called "Man". One week in particular we were installing a natural gas line through the heart of a city, along side a well traveled pedestrian corridor. The unassuming women who walked this path fell victim to cat-calls and whistles by my fellow co-workers.

No matter who walked by, as long as the gender equaled "Female" the harassment would ensue. "Hey baby, how would you like a piece of this?" Yo! Sexy thing; let me walk you to campus!" I kept a low profile hoping not to be recognized amongst the group of sweaty, dirty, disrespectful heathens.

What are men thinking? Seriously! Do they really believe that women are so dumb that a whistle put into a different pitch would beckon a female suitor rather than their sage, New Zealand sheep dog? That, calling a woman "babe" would ignite a fire so deep within that she couldn't help but spin on here high heels and offer up bust size and phone number?

It doesn't work and it never will! Women are pretty damn smart. They know how to play a man seven ways and eight on Sunday. Guys... if a woman ever accepts a cat call hit, you should be running for cover because they are out to eat your lunch. Even though you're marketing to both extremes of the female food chain, you need to beware!

On one side you have the brainless blonde who thinks cat calls are sincere mechanisms for communicating deep down feelings of love and trust. On the other, you have a woman who can disarm Osama Bin Laden with a smile.

Bottom line is that guys are dogs. Just the other night I saw a guy in a bar who approached the most beautiful woman there. He was so "EFN" flattering that I nearly lost my dinner. She appeared to be enamored with this guy. He seemed to be sweet as pie. She excused herself and went into the ladies room. No sooner had she rounded the corner, the guy started making comments about how he was going to "Take" her that night. Upon her return he morphed back into the perfect gentleman.

But then, he excused himself and went to the restroom. She started talking with her friends about how she had scored them the last three rounds of drinks and it was about time to lose the loser! It all made perfect sense to me. She saw that he was a bumb ass. She needed drinks for her and her friends. His penis got in the way of rational thought. The player got played!

Most women are very smart. They recognize up-front what's on a man's mind. Approach with respect or you might lose a hand.

These are my true words.

Tuesday, February 15, 2005

A comment on, "The Ladies"

We have an apposing opinion on the matter of love! Thank you for your comment. You my friend are a true and everlasting romantic. I do agree with part of you point. The point being that:

“Love is an offspring of true affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment; it will not be created for years or even generations."

Anonymous post – February 2005
Quote - Gibran, Kahlil - 1883-1931 Lebanese Poet Novelist

I completely agree. It’s what you do with that moment that becomes the deciding factor in love or loss. Individually we determine the path we take and the risks we accept. Even so, the ceremony of marriage, the ceremony of true UNION should be considered the highest of honors among mankind, but only after proof of sacrifice and love.

The combination of chemistry and spiritual attraction can be recognized in the first instant, but only to those who practice a deep awareness of personal divinity. In my experience it seems that couples are seldom in the same place at the same time, affording them low odds of finding their soul mate.

Isn’t that what this thread is all about? Being able to recognize the pressence of a soul mate? I believe that soul mates exist in many cases. Problem is, they don’t recognize what’s right there in front of them because it happens in an instant. And most people are not divinely aware of people and the situation they are in, and their soul mate goes completely unrecognized.

Thank you for clearing that up. I appreciate your thoughts and would love to know who you are and what you believe. I make it a practice to accept all truth into my realm; to feed on it and grow from it. You have blessed me with understanding.

These are mytruewords.

Monday, February 14, 2005

The Ladies

Valentines Day brings this truth out of me:

So, what is it with women anyway? In their 20's they can't seem to understand the need to find a great guy and love him with abandon. But when they reach their 30's and 40's they lose all sense of pride and throw themselves at any man who holds down a good job and possesses just a little bit of emotional depth, unless of course they're "clubbin".

In a club it's all about club wear and looking free and easy. It's a whole new kind of game. The ladies aren't necessarily interested in emotional depth, they're more interested in finding a guy in designer clothes, nice body and with that look in their eye. You know the look. It's the look that all hard core players throw out as soon as their surrounded by ladies. Some call it throwing a Zoolander. In these places, all good guys need not apply, because its happy hour and girl’s night all rolled up into one. The ladies are looking for: over-the-top, cut jaw, abs and ass.

As for me, in a club who knows, outside a club, not too shabby: successful career, high earning potential (remember the x's), artistic, easy going, yet out going, depth and breadth like an ocean, and I'm not looking too bad for a 4o year old either. Talk about the knock-out punch (minus the ex-wives of course)! So the problem is this. Every girl I go out with a couple of times pledges her undying love and proclaims our souls were destined for everlasting union. Holy crap! Will you just give me a couple of months to get to know you before you drop the anvil!

I call it rounding the corner. Most of these women round the corner long before I even see it coming up. Some say I'm a little slow picking up on the signals, but what's up with that? How can you catch a signal in three dates? I've come a long way these past few years though. I've finally learned something important. I keep one eye on the road and one eye on her tail lights. When I see the turn signal start to flash and she's too far ahead of me, I slam my foot into the brake pedal and start looking for a nice, quaint, dark, Irish Pub where I can hide out.

I know what I do wrong. The ladies are more than happy to share with me all the reasons I throw their little hearts into overdrive. So, let me enlighten you. I tell them that I don't want a serious relationship, but then I share with them my true, heart felt feelings. Definitely, two things that together makes absolutely no sense to a woman. With that they say my words create conflicting stories. Here's a big "For Example":

Tracy: "Can we just take this slow? I'm not ready for a serious relationship."

Ladies: "No problem. Neither am I."

- - - - Same Conversation - 20 Minutes Later - - - -

Ladies: "Trace, when you think of relationships, what is it that you would ultimately like to have?"

Tracy: "The relationship I would love is the one my grandparents had. I want to share the experiences of planting a garden and growing old with a woman who is my best friend. "

Ladies: “Oh, me too! You’re my soul mate! I love you! We were meant for each other!"

So you might think that I'm sounding a bit commitment adverse. I don't think I am. I just want to arrive at the corner around the same time as she does. You would think women would understand where I'm coming from. I'm an open book, a communicator. Answer me this question: After you've been hit in the head with a baseball bat a couple of times, does it take you a little longer to trust someone wielding a bat? Well of course it does! A woman wanting a relationship is like a woman wielding a bat.

I've been hit with a bat a time or two in my life. What I’ve learned is that commitment doesn't equal marriage. Commitment equals love, respect, companionship, loyalty and honesty. Marriage should only come after a long and tested tenure of a joint partnership, and as a reward for years of sacrifice and hard work. It's not a beginning point, it's a mile post.

So ladies (and you know who you are) take a breath, stop spraying your Miracle Grow girl juice all over your relationships. Let love evolve slowly and naturally. The corner comes up fast enough as it is, so conserve your fuel for the long haul.

These are mytruewords.

Friday, February 11, 2005


What exactly do we mean by truth? Is it about watching your words; tip-toeing on egg shells in order to avoid squashing the feelings of another? Is about saying what others want to hear or what others expect to be said? Is it about hiding who we are in order to acheive acceptance, rank or recognition?

I say "hell no!"

Truth is truth. It's about being impeccable with your words, regardless of the fallout. It's about owning up to what and who you are. It's about complete and pure honesty. And that's just one side of the coin. The other side deals in responsibility to self and others. Life is fragile. With a simple word or a gaze, lives are redirected and effected for better or for worse. Truth is the most incredibly important ballancing act we go about performing every day.

This BLOG contains my truth. So, go hide and cry, jump and sing. Go pray for your son and hope. Don't hope for the impossible. Hope that this child is True!